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14 March 2010 @ 05:42 pm
Hi, I have just joined LJ a few weeks ago and am starting to figure out my way around.  Thank you for letting me join your community.  I have enjoyed reading your posts!
I was raised in the Catholic church but was soured against it early on as my Mom was an ex-communicated Catholic as she married a divorced man.  My Mom though went every Sunday regardless and sat there while everyone else took communion.  I went to Sunday school etc and didn't understand at first but when I did I found it horrible that she would continue to go even though she was destined for Hell just because she had married my Father who is one of the nicest men you could possibly meet.  My Father is an agnostic (you know I will believe it when I see it).  I think that he has a belief in reincarnation if you really push him to it.  In fact he has some very interesting stories from when he was in India during WWII which lead him to believe more strongly in reincarnation.  Something which was completely outside the world view of a Church of England born boy from Yorkshire.  Anyway I missed my confirmation (went to Disneyland instead - you can see how important it was in my household - Dad is a bit passive aggressive LOL) and never really carried on in the Catholic church.

I did go sporadically to the Catholic church through my teens as I  always felt the Spirit and wanted to have some ritual meeting place where I could gather with others to worship.  When I was 20 I meet my spouse and when we were 21 we decided to commit to being life partners.  This was more than a bit of a problem as we are both women and the Catholic church and her fundamentalist church are not accepting at all of same sex unions.  Thus, we had to find another worship family.  When I was a law student (I'm a lawyer) I was volunteering at legal clinic and whilst talking to the other lawyer there we started to talk about spirituality and he invited us to a meeting of the Society of Friends (Quakers).  We loved it as you could worship in whatever manner you wished.  The only "rules" were that we were pacifists because we believed that the Light of God resided in every man and woman and thus, by killing or injuring another one was killing or injuring a piece of God.  We continued to worship with the Quakers until our first child was 2 1/2 but had to leave that wonderful spiritual group because there were no other children and we really wanted other Christian children for her to grow up with.  So we "shopped" around and interviewed the United Church Minister in the small town near where we live and have been going there for the past 10 years.  We are now members of the United Church of Canada.  I think we made the right decision though I miss being a Quaker sometimes.
My spouse and I were legally married about 5 years ago when the law changed in BC but we have been together 26 years on St. Patrick's day.  I guess the romance is dead because our 13 year old has convinced us to buy one of those big TVs for our anniversary LOL  We needed a new TV though as our old one is so old that we bought a blue ray DVD player and it doesn't have the right attachments for it (I think we had it before Mikhaela was born LOL).  Oh and I should also tell you that the Quaker community in Vancouver married us under its care in 1992 (it was not legal at that time) and at that point we were the first same-sex couple to be married under the care of a Quaker meeting in Canada.

So we have 2 kids - 13 and 11 - 5 dogs, a bird ( really nasty bird Cockatoo - didn't realize they were so nasty LOL).  My spouse is a professor at the local university and life is pretty good.

Again, thanks for letting me join your community.  I look forward to many interesting discussions.
Sallysexy_linguist on March 15th, 2010 04:51 pm (UTC)
maggie47maggie47 on March 15th, 2010 06:34 pm (UTC)
Katie: God Did - Shane & Shaneginnyjake on March 15th, 2010 05:26 pm (UTC)
Cockatoos are scary, scary birds. Granted, I'm not a big fan of birds in cages. They just make me nervous for some inexplicable reason.

What sort of law do you practice? (I'm curious because I'm a law student currently.)
maggie47maggie47 on March 15th, 2010 06:40 pm (UTC)
I know what you mean about birds in cages. She has been in a cage all of her life though. She is a rescue bird. Actually she is a cockatiel (I made a mistake earlier - she is the smaller of the two). An acquaintence of the family found her walking down the street because her wings had been clipped and someone needed to take her so we took her. She is not very social though - maybe it was because of her early life. I have heard that they will cuddle etc. Not this one - she bites LOL.

I am a family lawyer. I have been a trial lawyer for 21 years but I am getting more into mediation now because I am seeing more and more that the court room is not very good for families. It leaves them broken and furious with one another. They say that it takes about 1 year for people to get back to the same level of hatred that they had for each other before a trial and then they have to start the healing process. THis is truly hard especially if there are kids involved. Mediation though you can see people start healing before your eyes. Its a much better way to go. If you have any questions let me know.
Katieginnyjake on March 15th, 2010 06:55 pm (UTC)
My grandparents had a cockatiel that I'd nicknamed the evil bird because it hated me. It loved my grandfather though, used to sit on his shoulder while he shaved.

I think law in general seems to be moving farther and farther away from the courtroom. It's funny that most people seem to think that lawyers spend all their time in the courthouse and don't realize how much legal work is done outside of or completely separate from trials.
Sallysexy_linguist on March 16th, 2010 12:12 pm (UTC)
My friend's parents have a cockatoo that wolf-whistles at men when they walk by. When a woman walks by, the bird cusses them out.